Lessons on Self-Love
Love remains the most popular hashtag on Instagram…but what about #selflove? While love boasts over one billion hashtags, self-love only has eight million. What gives?! Self-love is defined as regard for one’s own well-being and happiness. And the reality is that most of us could use some extra special care from ourselves these days.
With all the negative messages being hurled our way, fearmongering politicians, stressful emotional effects of social media, influx of infidelity (and the high expectancy of infidelity) in relationships, toxic friendships, it’s a wonder people don’t realize how much they need to love on themselves more nowadays.
The tagline of TAI MARIE | The Experience Collector is “live life with a little more depth.” This means that when it comes to self-love, take it a step deeper than a “pamper me” day – although I’m all for them. Really dive into what it means to love yourself. Take care, not just of your outward appearances, but your spiritual, emotional, financial, and physical health. Take notice of how you feel after you’ve scrolled through your timelines. Do you feel better? Or a bit more antsy? Jealous? Gossipy?
We’ve all heard that social media is still the biggest culprit when it comes to our mental health. Countless studies have shown the negative effects that it can play. Social media usage is linked to depression, anxiety, psychological distress and other issues. These things can lead to high blood pressure, heart disease, migraines and many other issues thus effecting not just our mental state but physical state as well.
Scrolling through Instagram and Facebook seeing our friends on exotic vacations, fun dates, and interesting outings sends a message that we’re missing out on life and they’re having the time of their lives (FOMO – fear of missing out). It can be depressing.
So how can you practice a bit of self-love?
1. Unplug. Take time away from the phone. Or set aside time throughout the day just for social media and stick to strolling through that time frame.
2. Take a solo vacation (or staycation). You’ll be amazed at how resourceful you are when you have only your instincts to rely on.
3. Write down your thoughts and feelings after you’re done scrolling. If you feel drained or less-than then it’s time to take a break. That feeling can spiral quickly especially if it happens often.
4. Do more things that bring positive energy your way: call a good friend, take a walk, listen to some music, read a book, or dance in the middle of your living room if that’s your thing.
5. Pamper Me Day. Turn off the phone (maybe not for the whole day but most of the day) and go get your nails done or do them yourself. Get a massage or grab a movie in the middle of the day. Try a restaurant for lunch you’ve been wanting to try. Do something different that yourself will thank you for.
How will you love on yourself in the near future?