Some Hard Questions To Ask Yourself In The New Year
I once read this long, reflective quote about how what we do in our 20's effects the success of our 30's. Anyone in their 30's can attest to that. By the time you hit 30 or 31, you've begun to examine how close to or far off you are from your definition of success whether it's being at a certain level in your career, having a family, or reaching a certain amount in your savings account.
The sad reality is that most of us end up with our lives on autopilot because we refuse to take the quiet, reflective time necessary to evaluate where we are (honestly), where we want to be and how we're going to get there. Towards the end of the quote, there were a few questions asked and I made sure to write them down because they're important questions that I think not enough of us ask ourselves:
Am I proud of the life I'm living?
This question is tough because there are so many other factors to consider when answering it. You can be proud of the life you're living and still not be where you want to be which is fine if you're intentionally working on getting there. If you're not proud of the life you're living then you've got quite a bit of work ahead of you...that's if you do want to be proud of the life you're living.
What have I tried this month?
I love this question because it's about experiences and being The Experience Collector, I love the thought of people trying new things often. Experiencing things helps you live life more amply. Your brain is literally "rewired" every time you try a new food, visit a new place, or do a new thing.
Do the people I'm spending time with give me life, or make me feel small?
You should have no greater mission than protecting your peace which is, in essence, being very selective about who you allow in your space. This is easier said than done. For some reason, toxic people are the hardest to get rid of unless you're intentional about their removal which requires choosing YOU.
Is there any brokenness in my life that's keeping me from moving forward?
No one likes to admit they are broken yet all of us are broken in some kind of way. That's apart of being human. Unchecked, small cracks become extremely tough issues to overcome. Have you wanted to move forward in some area in your life (spiritually, emotionally, in a relationship, etc.) but just...couldn't? I can't tell you what will work for you but therapy has infinitely helped me repair what I believed to be the "brokenness" in certain areas of my life. To be open to repair, you have to be open to being vulnerable and honest.
These are the type of questions you ponder and answer when you have your big girl panties on because addressing them means you've faced and accepted the part of yourself that's full of flaws. It also means you've accepted and celebrated the good parts.
Have you ever asked yourself these questions? Chime in in the comments below.